Navigating Holiday Communication Across Neurotypes
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The holidays are a time for gathering, connection, and celebration. But as joyful as this season can be, it can also bring communication challenges, especially for families and friends with a mix of neurodivergent (ND) and neurotypical (NT) individuals. Clear and compassionate communication can make a world of difference in helping everyone feel heard, respected, and included.
Whether you’re neurotypical or neurodivergent, here are some ways to make communication easier and more enjoyable for everyone this season.
🌟 For Neurotypical (NT) Individuals Communicating with Neurodivergent (ND) Family Members
Be patient and flexible. If something isn’t understood right away, try rephrasing instead of repeating. Sometimes a small adjustment can make a big difference.
Respect differences. ND individuals may communicate differently for example, avoiding eye contact or expressing themselves in unique ways. Different doesn’t mean wrong; it’s simply another form of communication.
See the person, not the label. Everyone has their own strengths, challenges, and ways of connecting. Take time to appreciate who they are as an individual.
Engage with their interests. Many ND people have “special interests” they’re deeply passionate about. Showing genuine curiosity and excitement about those topics can build meaningful connection.
💬 For Neurodivergent (ND) Individuals Communicating with Neurotypical (NT) Family Members
Be aware of social cues. NT individuals often rely on subtle signals like tone or facial expressions. Even if you don’t notice or value these cues, they might and that awareness can help bridge communication gaps.
Plan for challenges. If certain things (like eye contact or group conversations) are difficult, think ahead about strategies or supports that can help.
Advocate for yourself. If something feels confusing or overwhelming, speak up or ask questions. Many NT individuals want to help but may not know what you need unless you tell them.
Check in with yourself. Masking can be exhausting. Be honest about your energy levels and take breaks when needed, it’s okay to step away and recharge.
A Final Thought
Whether you’re ND or NT, communication is about connection, not perfection. By leading with empathy, patience, and curiosity, we can create more inclusive and joyful holiday gatherings where everyone feels valued and understood.
